Remember the innocent mantra you learned as a child? “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Wanna bet? The wrong words said to
anyone, especially to a young and vulnerable child, are like glue. They stick to them forever—from ages 3 to 103.
The wrong kind of words can not only hurt you, they can emotionally maim you and even kill you. The National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse and several psychologists who have treated abused children came up with the following list of commonly used remarks with which parents verbally abuse their children. Many parents make these comments, completely unaware of the damaging repercussions and lasting scars these words can have on their youngsters. If you have made any of these comments to your child, never do it again! Apologize to them.
You can also do this with employees. Remember, it takes a big person to apologize, whether a parent, child, sibling, spouse, employer, or employee. Those who can't bring themselves to say they are sorry are often bullies who believe that a kick in the pants is better than a pat on the back. Those who make these cruel statements are often miserable and bitter people with little or no feeling for anyone but themselves. They are often so consumed with self-loathing that they spew forth their toxic bullets towards anyone in their way. Most often, it is towards a defenseless family member, such as a child.
The following are abusive statements you must never say.
1. “You look terrible.”
2. “Wear something else. You look awful.”
3. “You're pathetic. You can't do anything right.”
4. “You're so stupid. Can't you ever listen?”
5. “You disgust me. Just shut up!”
6. “If I would have known how much trouble you'd be, I never would have had you.”
7. “Get out of here and don't come back.”
8. “You make me sick.”
9. “You're always wrong.”
10. “Who asked you?”
anyone, especially to a young and vulnerable child, are like glue. They stick to them forever—from ages 3 to 103.
The wrong kind of words can not only hurt you, they can emotionally maim you and even kill you. The National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse and several psychologists who have treated abused children came up with the following list of commonly used remarks with which parents verbally abuse their children. Many parents make these comments, completely unaware of the damaging repercussions and lasting scars these words can have on their youngsters. If you have made any of these comments to your child, never do it again! Apologize to them.
You can also do this with employees. Remember, it takes a big person to apologize, whether a parent, child, sibling, spouse, employer, or employee. Those who can't bring themselves to say they are sorry are often bullies who believe that a kick in the pants is better than a pat on the back. Those who make these cruel statements are often miserable and bitter people with little or no feeling for anyone but themselves. They are often so consumed with self-loathing that they spew forth their toxic bullets towards anyone in their way. Most often, it is towards a defenseless family member, such as a child.
The following are abusive statements you must never say.
1. “You look terrible.”
2. “Wear something else. You look awful.”
3. “You're pathetic. You can't do anything right.”
4. “You're so stupid. Can't you ever listen?”
5. “You disgust me. Just shut up!”
6. “If I would have known how much trouble you'd be, I never would have had you.”
7. “Get out of here and don't come back.”
8. “You make me sick.”
9. “You're always wrong.”
10. “Who asked you?”
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