Like the “I’m Only Kidding” person, these people need to get a “leg up” on you, which is quite appropriate because after all, they are “My Dog’s Bigger than Your Dog” people. Years ago in a television commercial, a little boy was bragging about his little dog, when a second boy claimed that his dog was bigger than the first boy’s dog. Although it was a cute commercial, being around people who are always trying to compete with you isn’t very cute. It is annoying. Such people are so hungry to show you who they are and what they have that they are relentless in uncovering any morsel of information where they will have a chance to compete with you.
These people may indeed really like you. Perhaps they like you too much—to the point where they envy you and what you have. Their jealousy makes them need to establish an equal playing ground—to play the oneupsmanship game with you to make themselves feel better. They are extremely insecure about themselves and
about their accomplishments.
Perhaps they didn’t get enough positive reinforcement when they were children. Unfortunately, they crave it as adults. It becomes the fuel to their existence. No matter how hard you try to build them up, it doesn’t matter.
They need to build themselves up—mainly at your expense.
They drain you because they try to deflate and negate everything you say. In essence, being with them means constantly listening to their one-upsmanship and being put down. You can’t have a conversation with them, you can only have a match where they have to come out the “winner.”
These people may indeed really like you. Perhaps they like you too much—to the point where they envy you and what you have. Their jealousy makes them need to establish an equal playing ground—to play the oneupsmanship game with you to make themselves feel better. They are extremely insecure about themselves and
about their accomplishments.
Perhaps they didn’t get enough positive reinforcement when they were children. Unfortunately, they crave it as adults. It becomes the fuel to their existence. No matter how hard you try to build them up, it doesn’t matter.
They need to build themselves up—mainly at your expense.
They drain you because they try to deflate and negate everything you say. In essence, being with them means constantly listening to their one-upsmanship and being put down. You can’t have a conversation with them, you can only have a match where they have to come out the “winner.”
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