I discussed people who always tell you that they are kidding after making some devastating comment to you. They seem like they are erasing what they said, but they really say this only to keep you from attacking them back. If you persist in challenging them about the hostile comment they made, they will ever more loudly insist that they were “only kidding.”
The more you persist, the more they will resist, by getting louder and using a higher tone. Finally, they may use an exasperated or even sarcastic tone indicating they think you're the one with the problem because you're taking things so seriously. After all, they were “only kidding.”
Deep down inside, they really resent you or your actions, but they are too “chicken” to tell you outright, so they disguise their annoyance as humor.
Many young women I speak to experience this type of behavior from dates who want to “get a leg up” on them.
If the man feels intimidated by the woman, he may try to gain the upper hand by making hostile and insulting statements to her. When he sees that he was successful in getting a “rise” out of her, he knows he has that power, if only for a moment.
The more you persist, the more they will resist, by getting louder and using a higher tone. Finally, they may use an exasperated or even sarcastic tone indicating they think you're the one with the problem because you're taking things so seriously. After all, they were “only kidding.”
Deep down inside, they really resent you or your actions, but they are too “chicken” to tell you outright, so they disguise their annoyance as humor.
Many young women I speak to experience this type of behavior from dates who want to “get a leg up” on them.
If the man feels intimidated by the woman, he may try to gain the upper hand by making hostile and insulting statements to her. When he sees that he was successful in getting a “rise” out of her, he knows he has that power, if only for a moment.
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