In this age of sexual harassment suits, you should think twice about whom you kiss hello or goodbye. Like the cupped handshake mentioned earlier in this chapter, a kiss—especially a final kiss after a wonderful interaction—cements a bond and expresses what a special interaction it was. In film, television, or other parts of the entertainment business, kissing or hugging someone hello or goodbye is the norm. With so many fragile egos and insecurities, and sad feelings due to constant rejection, hugging and kissing help show biz people feel good about themselves and closer to the person they are hugging and or kissing.
Many people outside the entertainment industry, however, don’t know how to kiss or don’t feel comfortable kissing others as a hello or good-by greeting. These kisses are not as serious as sticking your tongue down a person’s throat. But they’re more than a boring flat-lipped light touch of the cheek or the phony socialite “air kiss.” This is not kissing. A kiss is when you pucker up and actually place your lips on a person’s cheek or lips, create suction, and then release the suction a few seconds later. It may seem ridiculous that I am teaching you
It’s very hard not to let down your guard toward an adversary who comes up to you and kisses you. You might even end up liking them. Try doing this after a tense conversation or a heated discussion. Give them a buss on the cheek or a hug, and watch what happens as their tense body and angry face relax.
This is an excellent and very powerful technique to use in the following situations:
• You know someone dislikes you for no good reason that you can think of.
• They’re jealous of you.
• You have just been in an adversarial conversation or heated discussion.
You can’t help but smile afterwards as you see how love and your positive attitude can diffuse the most negative energy. That is power! That power contributes to your self-esteem, which in turn translates into self confidence.
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