Gimme the Reins—I Need to Control You!

The control freak can relate to you—or to anyone else for that matter—only if he has you under his control.
Sometimes, the control freak can hold money, a certain lifestyle, or even a job situation over your head to make sure that you are under his thumb.
The most common situation I have encountered is the woman who goes after her dream man—the fantasy Prince Charming with the big bucks who can take care of her financially so that she will live happily ever after.
What does he get out of it? He gets the pleasure of controlling her with his big bucks, putting her on a restrictive budget, and dictating her behavior. Yeah—happily ever after! The price is too high when you give up your freedom. It doesn’t work—you crumble. Even societies crumble when people are controlled or oppressed. Look at what happened in East Germany and in the former Soviet Union. You can’t limit people’s creativity and ambition and expect them to flourish.