Love ‘Em Up Strategy

“A pat on the back is just a few vertebrae from a kick in the pants.”
Anyone who has to resort to spitting out verbal venom usually lacks the basic element for survival—love.
Those who lack enough love and support from others usually become insecure, jealous, and angry, and they don’t really feel good about themselves. Deep down, they really want to reach out but can’t, so they go the other direction and act hateful and spiteful. This behavior is, of course, due to their inner rage of not feeling loved enough.
If you look at them in this vein, you won’t have as many bad feelings towards them. They really need to be pitied more than hated. They need more compassion than aggression.
Therefore, instead of being angry at them you actually need to diffuse their anger with love and kindness. This is a Herculean task for anyone who has been verbally shot, maimed, and blown to bits. If you find you just can’t do it, not to worry. This is just one tool of many in your arsenal of verbal defense weapons.
If you think of the common phrase “kill them with kindness,” you might feel a lot better about employing this strategy more often.
Below are six sub-strategies of the Love ‘Em Up Strategy for verbal defense. Try them! They are actually fun to do and very empowering.