What Men Need to Do

1. Stop making commands. Make requests instead.
2. Always use the words “please” and “thank you” whenever making a request. Use terms of politeness as often as possible.
3. Use more psychological state verbs to express how you are feeling.
4. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help as soon as possible.
5. Don’t use sarcastic or cutting humor.
6. Don’t interrupt.
7. Don’t take up so much room physically.
8. Have more enthusiasm in your voice. Don’t wear your emotions on your sleeve. Instead, wear them on your vocal tones.
9. Don’t lecture someone—have a dialogue and not a monologue.
10. Look at a person face to face when speaking.
11. Use more descriptive adjectives.
12. Don’t frown when listening.
13. Show more emotional reaction in your face when you speak and listen.
14. Open up more—don’t use one-word responses to answer questions.
15. Don’t keep changing topics midstream in a conversation a woman brings up.
16. Stop fidgeting and rocking back and forth.
17. Disclose more personal information about yourself.
18. Don’t point your finger at people when talking to them, especially when you want to express a point.
19. Apologize immediately if you have done something wrong.