Knowing When to Attack Back

It is only when you really know yourself (which you probably do by now) that you become utterly confident and secure that you are doing the right thing. You automatically know when to take matters in your own hands and attack back! You know what your limits are. Nobody else but you does.
In order to feel more comfortable attacking back, think of all the times in your life when you didn’t attack back or respond to your verbal adversary. Think about how you felt immediately afterwards, two hours later, during your sleep (not being able to sleep, or having a bad dream about it), and when you got up the next morning. In the following chart, put an X next to the times of the day when someone said something that bothered you.
Write down as many situations as you can remember, even from childhood, where you took the verbal abuse and didn’t react immediately.