So many people become mute after they say “hello.” They have succeeded in getting the person to acknowledge them and to make that first contact. Now they freeze, go blank, and stand there like a deer in headlights, not knowing what to do or say and mumbling about something stupid.
If this scenario sounds all too familiar and you’ve been there/done that, help is on the way! The reason you acted like a vegetable is that you began to focus on yourself instead of paying attention to the other person. You were more concerned about things working out right and about being interesting, witty, and clever than you were about what the other person was all about. In essence, you were not interested. You may try to contradict me here by saying “of course I am interested, or I wouldn’t have approached them in the first place.” True, you were interested, but you were interested in you making a good impression. If you shifted your attention away from yourself, you would never have felt so awkward and out of place.
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