This is the time you have for yourself! As I said earlier, the best thing you can do is get professional help of some kind. The next thing you can do is to heal yourself.
Next, pamper yourself! And I mean major pampering! Don't feel guilty. This is money well spent! Pretend you are a prince, princess, sheik, king, or queen, and take one day off to book yourself solid in order to do things with the sole purpose of making yourself feel not only good but great! Whatever it is, do it and enjoy! Here is a list to give you some ideas for having this great day just for you:
• Go to the theater or a live sporting event (no matter how expensive it is).
• Go somewhere or do something you always wanted to, although you never had the time or the energy.
• Go dancing or to a club.
• (Unless you have an alcohol problem) Go to a bar (even a cigar bar) and have all the drinks you want, providing that you do not drive home in a drunken state (you don't want to make it your last day!).
• Go shopping and splurging on whatever you want, forgetting about the money and knowing that you will somehow pay it off in time.
• Get a manicure, pedicure, facial, haircut and style; get waxed (if you are a woman or a man for that matter), get a shave at the barber's (if you are a man), and top it all off with a warm and relaxing bubble bath, followed by a full body massage.
• Have many of these pampering specialists in your home to carry out your regimen of being pampered.
• Lie in bed all day sleeping.
• Have an eating marathon, not caring about diets and calories, but eating your favorite food, perhaps in your favorite restaurants, even going to a different restaurant for coffee, breakfast, lunch, tea, dinner, and drinks.
• Have a book marathon, reading everything you ever wanted to read.
• Participate in a sport you love or take lessons in a sport you always wanted to try—for example, snowskiing, waterskiing, in-line skating, hang-gliding, horseback riding, skeet shooting, and polo.
• Have a video marathon, watching every video you've ever wanted to see.
• Spend the day having a sex marathon with a loved one.
No matter what it is that you do, you have one sole purpose, and that is to make YOU feel good. No calls! No meetings! No problems! This is your day and your day only, so take advantage of it, cherish it, and don't feel guilty about it!
This pampering can also help prevent you from going back to the verbal abuser or heal the emotional pain and distress she caused you! Whenever you think of her or see another one coming your way, think of this marvelous day, and it will help you get through the difficult days.
